but that's alright because I like the way it hurts."
I burn bridges
And I'm torn. For part of me that is an admittance, a fault of mine. For the other half it's a statement, almost inevitable at times.
In my world, at least the part I can somewhat control, it is what happens in certain situations after forgiveness, or at least a truce; it is a strong decision on my part to deter myself from them. I've found that although this makes a lot of sense to me, to others it does not. There have been times in my life when friends have become not friends, and I do not wish to have them in my life anymore.
I think that's fair.
In my world, at least the part I can somewhat control, it is what happens in certain situations after forgiveness, or at least a truce; it is a strong decision on my part to deter myself from them. I've found that although this makes a lot of sense to me, to others it does not. There have been times in my life when friends have become not friends, and I do not wish to have them in my life anymore.
I think that's fair.
But some people don't.
And I'm to the point where I almost just don't really care. I feel like wherever we go, wherever we work, there is always a chance of having one, or more, people that annoy you, upset you, are downright rude to you on a routine basis. There's nothing you can do about that except treat them with kindness, be open with them about it, and try and work it out, or at the very least not let it get under your skin.
But what if you're not at work? What if that person is in your life but could not be in it, if say...you lit a figurative match?
Jesus says to forgive, as he forgave us. He says to turn the other cheek. He says to treat others as you would like others to treat you [clearly I'm saying my own version here]. But what I'm wondering here is, do you invite them back in? Do you share your heart with them again, knowing that it may in fact, come back to bite you in the butt?
I don't know.
All I know is that:
Jesus forgave.
We're supposed to guard our heart above all else. (Prov. 4:23)
Color me confused.
My ruling, that I've come up with during my 20 odd years here on this planet?
If they're a friend, and they've been a good friend?
Yes.
One of my friends and I haven't spoken one on one since New Years Day, and I miss her sorely. I'm hurt that we haven't talked, but I'm looking forward to mending that friendship. I want our daughters to be friends one day, and I won't let hurt feelings get in the way of that.
If the relationship was not a friendship,but more of a 'life relationship' and you've worked it through, then consider parting from that person.
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